An Explanation to Potential Female
Partners
Sunday, June 5, 2016
Revised July 10, 2016
Revised July 21, 2016
Revised July 24, 2016
I have received criticism for
using the words “I need female companionship”.
This was described to me as potentially damaging to potential female
companions, friends and partners. The
concern is that such words we be perceived as inappropriate for a man whose
wife of 43 years died of cancer just a little over two months ago. My wife was everything to me: she was my sex
partner, the mother of our son our only child; my best friend, and my biggest
fan who vigorously promoting the two skills that I have master so far in my 68
years. My wife taught me a skill that has become a rarity among American men: “How
to love a woman.; and how to insure that she KNOWS that she is loved.” Now that
I am faced with rebuilding my life at 68, I need a female companion because I
live my life to its fullest potential when I have a female companion. What is
offensive about that?
I was an outstanding
physician who helped a great many people in my 18 years of private practice and
the eight years that I worked at the State of Texas largest mental hospital and
the only forensic hospital in the state.
I have a perfect record: never been sued or even threatened with a
lawsuit, never been disciplined by any hospital or regulatory body. I have been a passionate photographer since
1969 and have learned how to take beautiful and inspiring images of almost
everything. Through decades of work I
have learned the rare skill of taking images “instinctively”; that is, without
interference from the thinking analytical brain. Such a street shooter style has been labeled
“shooting from the hip”.
Simply put, I have many skills
and can be of help to a potential female companion, especially with medical
issues. I am a good partner and have 43
years to practice and learn the skills of loving and caring for another person,
especially women. My nature is one of a
kind and caring person. I inherited ADHD
from my mother and as a result I often have trouble managing time, a common
issue for people with this common temperament. The most recent research shows
that approximately 9% of the population of the United States also have this
“hunter gatherer” temperament.
I have one more skill I would
like to master in my remaining years (about 20+ according to demographic
statistics), and that is mastering the guitar.
This has been a dream since I was 20.
I have exceptional manual dexterity as determined by aptitude tests
taken in the 8th grade, and confirmed by the best ophthalmic surgeon
in the greater Seattle area, who had twice as much surgical experience as the
next most experienced surgeon. This was
because he served in a MASH unit in Korea.
I assisted him on a surgery (all ophthalmological surgeries are done
through a microscope) as an intern, and afterward he said he was very impressed
with my skill and told me he could get me into any Ophthalmological Residency
in the country (he was nationally renowned) of my choice. But I had a wife in
poor health and a small son, and didn’t feel like I could tolerate three more
years of training, so I regrettably turned down the offer. He told me to let him know if I changed my
mind. We became fast friends and Jan and
I attended his wedding.
Having mastered two important
skills, medicine and photography, I want to learn something new, playing the
guitar, which I have wanted to do since I was 20. I also am very capable of earning some of the
needed funds by repairing old style vacuum tube guitar amps.
I do have some health issues
that are aggravating , but none of them should shorten my life span. I can
manage these aggravations with medications and avoiding activities that cause
exacerbations of these conditions. In
total I have no more minor health problems that the average 68 year old male,
and being a retired physician I know the early signs of disease and thus I
reduce the chances of a small problem becoming a large one. I know how to take care of myself and I do.
I wrote this to clarify what
my needs are and what I can give back in a multitude of ways. It is important that potential partners to
know “what they are getting into” and they will get in return.
I also want to point out that
I am a very flexible person and more than willing to give up habits or
activities or habits to make a potential female companion more
comfortable. For example, if a woman
reads that I smoke cigars and she is repulsed by cigar smoke, I will give it up
in a hot minute. Any benefit gained by
the repulsive habit pales in comparison to having a female partner.
Finally, the issue of
sex. I’ve been accused of just being
after sex. However, I have always lived
by the principle that friendship should be well established before sexually
activities begin, and then only when my partner is ready. If the companionship/friendship develops to
the point where sex is a natural progression in the relationship, we will
discuss the matter before initiating the activity. I have some concerns about my sexual
abilities, due to the fact that due to my wife’s depression she has had no
libido since 2002. While would have
engaged in intercourse to meet my needs, the greatest joy in life is to
experience my partner having multiple orgasms, sometimes to the point where
they are so continues that they become a constant experience. Seeing your spouse scream with joy while
having one continuous orgasm is the most satisfying experience possible, and we
achieved this level of sexual delight more often than not. However, during more brief depressive
experiences in the past had taught me that to try to reach orgasm when
depressed was just work for her and she never achieved ;orgasm when depressed. She would have engaged in sex for me after
2002 but since the clitoris has more than twice the number of nerve endings as
the head of the penis, to put her to “work” for the sake of an ejaculation was
not worth the frustration and I can easily ejaculate by masturbating which I
accomplished without her knowledge to prevent her from feeling inadequate which
would just exacerbate her depression.
One more aspect of sex that
is very powerful in building a sense of trust and stability, and that is the
cuddling that takes place after the orgasmic phase. Even without sex, if one partner is too
fatigued or is ill, just cuddling is perhaps the most soothing experience a
human can experience.
I have a good income of
approximately $5,000/month, and that’s without the amp repair business. I have two dogs that I adore and take good
care of, especially Aussie a mix of Australian Shepard and Border Collie. He is the most intelligent dog I have ever
had contact with, and is extremely athletic.
We play “ball” several times a day which consists of my hitting a tennis
ball over the house and his catching it with remarkable athletic
maneuvers. We adopted him as a stray at
about one year of age. When my health
declined when he was about four he became my caretaker. I was amazed by this and asked my wife who
has a lifetime of experience with dogs, and she said that highly intelligent
dogs well bonded with their human, do occasionally take upon them selves the
roll of caretaker.
I have a 63 year old sister
with borderline cognitive function. She
cannot take care of herself and so she has lived with us for the last 14
years. She is very helpful and easy to
please. I have a son, 38y/o who is very
dedicated to helping me every way he can.
I have a lot to offer a potential companion/partner and I give more than
I take.
Mo
Morris Creedon-McVean
A gentleman and a scholar
12624 Timber Heights Drive
Austin, Texas, 78754
512-508-2586
